Do you ever get days where it feels like everything is against you?
Having had the mindset training I have I know to try and look for the positives but let’s be honest life isn’t a bunch of roses for anybody no matter how strong their positive mindset!
This week my gratitude journal has been getting half a page entries rather than the full page I strive for each day.
It feel like I’ve had everything thrown at me this week!
Hubby’s cousin who inspired me to write a post about grabbing life with both hands and living the fuck out of it lost her 4 year long fight with cancer, my wonderful mother in law has been poorly and needed an operation, my Nan had a fall and broke her hip, the kids have been ill non stop all week and Pud had some tests done and I have to wait all weekend to find out why the dr needs to talk to me about the results!
Having to deal with all that is basically the reason the posts have been a bit thin on the ground lately. (Don’t even get me started on the weight loss plan! It’s gone the wrong way completely!)
On the plus side, I’ve been trying to keep myself occupied by planning some exciting new photoshoots and launching my new money saving shopping group on Facebook!
The plan is to try and bring you money saving offers and gift ideas for those hard to buy for people in your life.
Check out the page here: The Hopeless Housewife Shopping Group
I’m hoping that normal service will be resumed next week…that said, I did name this blog the hopelss housewife for a reason……just saying 😉
I shared a post a while back about how I get myself motivated on a Monday morning. (ICYMI it’s this one)
I developed my morning routine after some coaching with the amazing Niyc Pidgeon. Niyc is a Positive Psychologist MSc, Global Success Coach, and as of yesterday, a published Hay House Author!
I have just ordered her book Now Is Your Chance for myself and I am excited to get stuck into her 30-day guide.
Having had actual real-life coaching from Niyc herself I can say from experience that the title: Now Is Your Chance: A 30-Day Guide to Living Your Happiest Life Using Positive Psychology isn’t
just a tagline to grab your attention. 30 Days of coaching with Niyc sent me off in a direction I never thought I would have the confidence to take!
I was struggling with my confidence in my network marketing business which was the reason I wanted to get involved with the coaching programme. What actually happened though was during the 30 days and working on the tasks Niyc set I realised it wasn’t just my business that was making me miserable. It was a whole bunch of things and the best bit was I was given the skills to re-evaluate what my goals were and how to make small changes to my life and my mindset to make those new, exciting goals far more reachable!
Following the simple steps, set out by Niyc, for 30 days gave me the tools I needed to shift my mindset into a more positive state. Don’t get me wrong I still have bad days, but there are definitely fewer of them now!
The shift in confidence saw me actaully take a step back from my Network marketing business and do something I had always dreamed of but had never been confident enough to do….Start a photography course and become a paid, professional, photographer!
So far it’s going pretty well too! 6 months in and I’ve had paid clients and new enquiries coming in regularly and I’ve even shot my first wedding (which was terrifying, but ultimately successful!)
It was a twist I never saw coming to be honest but I’m now doing something I love and getting paid for it and I truely believe it was down to Niyc’s coaching. It was the catalyst I needed to change my thinking and change my life for the better.
I can’t wait to get my hands on my copy tomorrow becasue I know it’s going to cement the habits I’ve already gained from coaching sessions in the past and if you take the chance to order a copy I’d love to know what you think and if it changes your life too!
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Cleaning sucks! I hate it! No really….I’d rather sit naked on hot coals than have to scrub my toilet and do the 2 billion loads of laundry that mount up every week!
I’m not proud of the photos I’m about to post. Frankly, they are damn right shameful!
The thing is though this is my reality. This is what happens to my house when I have 1 single day of crippling depression. The really debilitating kind that hits you from nowhere and means you can’t even bring yourself to get out of bed.
These pictures are what happens to my fairly tidy house if I can’t do anything at all for 24 hours!
Don’t get me wrong my house is never showhome standards of tidy – I do have 3 kids after all!
My point is though that when it gets to this level of dirt and clutter I feel utter despair at how on earth I’m going to even make a dent in it.
I’ve read books on decluttering and cleaning and tried methods from big names such as FLY lady and KonMari. The problem is none of those methods work for me long term.
I’m still working on finding the long term cleaning habits that work, to be honest, but a couple that have struck a bit of a chord more than most are Unf*ck your habitat and 40 bags in 40 days.
It seems little and often is the key to success for me. Everyone has different triggers though so do what works best for you. I’m just going to share how I cope on my really bad days in the hope it might help even one person that is struggling with mess and doesn’t know where to start with cleaning and tidying.
My worst day method
When it’s all I can do to get out of bed in the morning I’m needing fast, simple wins that I can celebrate to get me back on track faster below is just my take on how I do that. I celebrate my first win before I even leave my room with the quickest, easiest cleaning win I can get…
Make your bed
Ok so on a bad day (or more accurately the day after my bad day) The first thing I do is get up and make my bed. If you don’t have sheets on it right now do your best to get some on it. It doesn’t have to be fancy and dressed with cushions and throws etc just get up straighten your pillows and flatten down the duvet.
Then give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done.
The reason I like to start with making the bed is because 1: it’s quick and easy so you can celebrate a win first thing in the morning which can set you up for a more positive day all round and 2: If you get nothing else done you can flop into bed at the end of the day and feel comfortable knowing you have accomplished something and then hopefully get a better nights sleep to take on another task and get yourself another win tomorrow. 🙂
Pick a surface, Any surface.
Once my bed is made I’m feeling ready to get myself a winning streak going. My next priority is having space to make food. Now as you can see above my kitchen is small, cluttered and doesn’t have anywhere near adequate storage! (If you look carefully you’ll notice my cutlery is stored on the dishwasher as there is not a single drawer in my badly designed kitchen!)
Now to tackle the whole kitchen in one go is asking for trouble. Unless I’ve got an hour or 2 free to get stuck in getting it fully clean and tidy is an unreachable target and remember we are looking for the small wins today.
So what I do is I pick up any obvious rubbish and bin it. this usually gives me enough space to put a dinner plate down and then I can really pick up the pace and get me some space to work!
I don’t worry about washing the dishes there and then. I simply stack them ready to be washed later. Dinner plates first, then side plates on top of those and bowls stacked on top of those. By the time I’ve gathered them and stacked them I have space to stack any trays and pans next to them and the cutlery on top of those. Bam! My kitchen worktop is halfway empty so I can wipe down a surface and make food when needed. Just like that, I’m on a winning streak.
If tackling your worktops feels too daunting right now pick a smaller surface to try and clear instead. Maybe a lamp table or a bedside table. Something small that you can clear off and clean the surface of will be another quick and easy win that can boost you and motivate you to keep up the good work. Throw any obvious rubbish and then try, if you are able, to sort through anything that’s left and decide if you want to keep it on display on that surface, move it to a new home or remove it from your home completely via the bin or by donating/selling it.
Once the surface is less cluttered you can wipe it down to remove dust. This can be as simple as using a piece of tissue if you don’t have anything else to hand.
If you’ve done all that in one go give yourself 5 minutes to rest and admire your awesome work! Feel proud of yourself that you have tackled 2 jobs on the housekeeping list andwon!
Resting is important too!
Make no mistake taking a break is vital to success. If you try and keep going and going and going eventually you are going to break. The reason I like Unf*@k your habitat so much is because it is where I discovered the 20:10 method of decluttering and cleaning and I love it to avoid burning out. Basically, you go for it with cleaning or tidying your chosen room or area of a room for 20 minutes and then you rest for 10 minutes. Repeat as required/ desired. The best bit with this method is that if you struggle for whatever reason with doing something for 20 minutes straight you can tweak it to suit your needs and ability. So maybe your pattern will be 15:10 or even 10:10. It might not work for you but I do recommend giving it a try. It helps me with the feeling of being overwhelmed when I have a lot to clean at once. I know I can just turn up my music and get whatever I can done for 20 minutes, then I can reward myself with a well-earned rest. It’s actually surprising how fast the time goes and how productive you can be in short bursts!
Aim for Progress, not perfect.
I am extremely fortunate to have the support I do from my husband and family. Yes, they trash the place when I am not around to pick up after them but actually having a day in bed helps me to reset my systems as it were so the next day I am better able to cope with the mess they leave in their wake. It still takes me a few days to get back on top of things though and even now a week on from my when those photos were taken I’m still not fully back on form with the cleaning schedule. My main goal each day is to keep everything I’ve done so far looking the same. That way if nothing else gets done I still have those few clear spots to look at for motivation.
Don’t be disheartened if you can’t make massive changes overnight. Progress is perfect enough. No matter how small the step your taking is, be proud that you are taking it and moving forward to better things and if you’ve made your bed today know that I am proud of you and you are awesome! <3
How has the magic sleep potion been going? I hear you all cry.
Honestly, it’s been going like this………
However………the day I decided to buy and try Lush’s Sleepy body lotion, Pip decided to wake up from a nap with a stinking cold! 🙁
I have to say though I still think it is helping! Obviously, it’s not a fair test right now so I’ll be waiting until the cold bug departs our house to give it a fair trial and see if it’s as good as it seems!
Pip is 1 year old and has never slept through the whole night. To say we are exhausted is an understatement! Her record so far is 11 times. That’s me getting out of bed to soothe her back to sleep 11 times in one 12 hour period!
Her average is 3- 4 times. She also seems to think that 3-4 AM is the best time to start the day!
Last night she went to bed at 8 PM, Woke at 11:30 PM and stayed awake until 3 AM.
During the late night playtime session, I decided to do some research and found many good reviews about Lush’s Sleepy body lotion. So in a hazy fog of sleep deprivation, I dragged my ass into town to get some of this, apparently magic, potion!
At £7.95 for a small (95g) pot, it’s not exactly a bargain…….that said, if it works I’d pay £50 for a small pot so it’s all relative I guess!
It contains Oatmeal and Lavender and whilst I love the look of my beautiful lavender plant I am not a huge fan of the smell and I was expecting a strong waft of the purple plant-based cream to overpower me on opening the tub. Not so!
It’s a very light, quite thin lotion with a very pleasant sweet, subtle lavender scent that I’d actually be happy to use on myself too!
I’m going to be trying it out on Pip tonight and I’ll post a full review with the results in a couple of days! Wish us luck! 🙂
I’m fast approaching my 37th birthday. For the past 3 years, I’ve told myself, it’s ok that I’ve not pushed myself to achieve everything I wanted this year I’ve got years ahead of me yet. I’ll do it next year.
Thing is, tomorrow is never promised!
A few days ago I was told my husband’s cousin, a beautiful mum of 6 young children is being ‘made comfortable’ after a few years of kicking cancer’s arse!
We weren’t particularly close but I had attended a fundraising event for her a couple of years ago and we have met up at family event’s and she’s one of those awesome people that no matter what’s going on in her life she’d make time to help you and was always giving back to her local community.
This news has shaken me a lot. She’s younger than me and her very bright future has now been ripped away by the horrendous disease that is cancer. It’s not right and it’s not fair and I’m so bloody angry that it is happening to her!
It’s time right now to decide to change your life!
I’m not talking about business as such (although for me it is time to start putting all the plans and talk into ACTION at last.)
Think about what it is that will truly make you happy. Work out what you need to do to make it happen and start working on it right NOW!
You don’t know what is around the corner.
Take the chances now and regret them later if you must.
Even now at the relatively young age, I am I still regret the things I haven’t done WAY more than the things I have done! (and believe me, there are some spectacular fails in my past! :/ )
Stop thinking, start doing.
Your time is now!
Ok so right off the bat let me start by saying actually I couldn’t give a toss about being ‘thin’. It’s just that fat girl gets slightly less fat doesn’t quite have the same ring to it.
Anyhoo. Pud has been at school for a whole week now so I am starting to slowly find my groove again after 7 weeks of summer holiday chaos.
A very brief back story about why I need to be ‘less fat’.
2 years ago I was on a bit of a health kick. I was going to Zumba classes and had myself a cross trainer which I used maybe twice a week on a good week. I was eating more healthy and started attending Slimming world classes. I was doing really well too! I lost close to 2 stone and dropped 2 dress sizes to reach a size 16 for the first time in 6 years!
I celebrated this momentous day by treating myself to a beautiful coat I had been longing for in that coveted size 16.
It was a little snug at first but a couple more weeks and it fitted me perfectly.
I loved my coat and I always got compliments on it whenever I wore it.
Fast forward 6 weeks and I am the proud and happy owner of a positive pregnancy test!
Well since then I’ve not been able to do my beautiful new coat up! It’s been sat in my wardrobe for almost 2 years!
Now it is time though! I’m saying bye bye pizza and cola. Hello again beautiful coat!
Since Pip is a difficult little madam and still refuses a bottle, I am still nursing her a couple of times a day so my plan to do a Clean 9 to give my weight loss a kick start has been put on the back burner for now. In the meantime though I am swapping out my sugary snacks for fruit and doing a LOT more walking!
Having lots of free time in the day means I am getting out and about with Pip to baby groups and activities.
Today was a 2 mile walk to baby ballet class, although I hurt my back on the way so I cheated and got a ride home! Still it’s 2 miles more than I would have done otherwise and it’s all about doing a little bit more each day! One step at a time and all that! 🙂
I’m going to be doing regular updates on here for anyone interested in my journey and I’m always up for a little healthy (literally) competition if you want to join me! Leav eme a note in the comments and we can get healthy together! 🙂
This is a quick post to try help raise awareness for a little girl called Isabella, who lives close to me in Essex and is in need of donations to help fund her trip to the USA for surgery to help her to walk.
Isabella is an identical twin and was born prematurely.
After many months of appointments, tests and therapies she was diagnosed with Spastic Diplegia, a form of Cerebral Palsy.
Her family is raising money for her to travel to America for pioneering surgery that will allow her to walk and be just like her twin sister, Scarlett.
Her mum says “Isabella is a very happy and cheeky little girl. She has so much determination to walk and she just wants to be able to run and play with her siblings with ease. As a parent, it is very distressing to have to sit back and watch her struggle on a daily basis. We have made Isabella a promise to grant her of her wish to walk.”
If you would like to donate to Isabella’s wish you can do so here
You can keep up to date with Isabella’s journey on Facebook page below.
All mums have worries about their precious babies starting this huge new chapter of their lives but as with most other milestones in life there is a special level of worrying reserved for us special needs families.
There are the usual worries of course. Will they miss me? Will they make friends? Will they be able to keep up with their peers?……..and the list goes on.
But for me at least I have an extra level of worring to do. How will he cope in a completely new scenario and new routine? Will the staff be able to understand his subtle gestures and his own personal way of signing for what he wants? What happens if he gets bullied? Will they know when he is hurt? Will he make it through the day without needing a nap from all the stimulation? Will they help him with his lunch and watch that he doesn’t try to take others lunches and cause a fight?
These are just some of the things that will be running through my mind until 3 pm.
The thing is when most kids come out of school they will tell you all about their day. For me, I have to find out through his 1:1 and if she doesn’t see something or doesn’t tell me, then I will never know! It’s a lot of faith to put in someone that you’ve only met briefly for a couple of times!
The first day is usually the most stressful. I know when M started school, the relief that flooded over me when she came out at home time, beaming smile on her face and excited to tell me al the wonderful things she had done that she would be ok.
With Pud though the worries won’t end today. Every single day is going to be as hard and as worrying as the first. That’s probably one of the crappiest sides of being an Autism parent ( or any other special needs parent come to that!) Autism doesn’t take a day of so neither can I.
As it happens, today he seemed to have a really good day! So that will make tomorrow slightly easier to take. The fact he came in home and straight away put himself to bed tells me the end of the week is going to be a struggle! 🙁
Watch this space….. I suspect a meltdown is on the way! (For Pud and for me!)
Sharing Sunday is back!
It’s been a few weeks but I’m going to be starting my sharing Sunday posts again to give a little boost to business and products that I love.
Go and check them out and show some love if you like what you see!
B. Stean Footwear
First up is a local shop I have been wanting to visit for a while.
My boy is about to start school so the nightmare shopping trip for school shoes was due.
Having chubby feet usually means a trip to Clarks along with an obligatory meltdown due to the bright lights, loud music, and crowds, let alone the fact he HATES having his feet touched and measured!
Cue a visit to B.Stean. The shop is small, family run and stacked high with shoes! The staff are extremely friendly and professional and it reminds me a bit of the old school shops where they know your name and nothing is too much trouble!
I explained about the coming meltdown and how Pud hates having his feet measured.
To my absolute amazement, Mr. Stean did a measurement by sight! That’s how good they are!
Not only that he managed to get the new shoes on his feet before he even realised what was happening! Long story short the perfectly fitting Clarks shoes were on, checked and off again Pud could react!
After sharing my delight at the awesome service I had friends tell me they travel for several miles just to visit for new shoes and I promise you if you do too you won’t regret it!
When I was pregnant with Pip and unbeknown to me, my mum entered me into a competition to win a hamper. I only realised this when I was told I had won! I got to meet the guys behind the company to pick up my hamper and I have to say their business is a great one!
You can buy a hamper for so many different people/ scenarios and have it delivered either from yourself or anonymously.
My newborn hamper contained a range of items from the basics like nappies, wipes, nappy cream and cotton buds, to little extras like a bar of chocolate for the new mum and a pack of pasta and jar of sauce for a quick and easy dinner on the first night home!
Other hampers include student, elderly neighbour, 4 legged friends and the Essex hamper which is full of locally sourced products.